Explain Sex to Children

It is hard to explain about sex to our children. What they considered to be small and still afraid imitate what we do. His course, curiosity of children encouraged to ask what all they see.

There are a few tips that can be used as reasons for the child sex menayakan subject. Essentially, we must still provide information so that children understand and be peaceful in them.
Following tips as quoted from untukku.com about how the child's curiosity about sex:

* How to explain sex to children?
Give honest answers and not timid. Provide information needed by children at that time. For example, children aged 3 years and want to know where babies come from. You do not need to explain in detail about reproduction. Simply said, the baby grows in a special place in his mother's body.

* What should you say when you see children being intimate touch?
Try to be calm, do not be excessive. Bring back the small room to sleep. Explain both of you are not a quarrel, because if it does not create misunderstandings will be notified on the poppet. Say you are playing and showing affection to one another.

* Age of the child should be given education about sexual abuse?
Do not be too straight to time. Children learn about sex all the time and the answers to individual questions. Avoid the plan to let the things about sexual abuse because they are not realistic.

* What to do if you find children playing doctor and show each other genital with friends?
Stay calm, and say to them that the "private parts" is the only own time, and they should not allow people touch the part.

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Parents in The Development of Children

Rearing of children is not easy. Many factors influenced, especially the role and how parents educate their children at home.

Being a parent, according to Tan Vina in a talk show held Sion Hill School, should know the advantages of the child if you want to increase its potency.

Parents first, and now different. If the first, the parents still have a lot of time for their children, technology is also still not as fast now, and the minimal influence of the mass media. Unlike the now, parents have time for their children because of limited work demands, technology has also been high, and the influence of the media so big.

Vina recommend the parents to put more attention to the mass media. He cite comics, reading this image that contains a lot of pornography and not suitable as a reading of children.

"So also with the internet. Parents do not need experts, they should at least know the internet. So that later can supervise their children in using the internet, "he said.

Not different from the television, now that many television cinema can be adapted directly by children. "We have to notify the child, where the right and wrong," he said.

However, there is also a television that brings a positive influence. Just call the game football broadcast that uses a lot of tactics and strategy. There, children can learn and apply them in life.

As parents, still according to Vina, must also continue to foster curiosity. Try to read to wide knowledge. When curiosity parents high, then the child will not be any different. Child's curiosity will grow by itself.

Then, keep and develop communication between family members. By doing so, it's easier to raise children. If there is something wrong, husband and wife must communicate with each other. Don't be silenced each other when there is a problem. Better ask directly, what the problems and search for way out.

Couple must also declare each other. Avoid mutual conceal something. For example, a husband to buy something without his wife. Buy it because with children, the husband is the son-not to say the same for his mother. "Do not Threatens to keep the child, 'says Vina.

Vision Parents
Raising a child can not finish the course after the children growing up. Children should be given formal and informal education in order to grow into a mature and personal responsibility.

Most children grow because of the influence of their parents. Children will imitate what the parents and customs. Therefore, in order to have children responsibly, parents also need to have a vision of life in the household. "Plan's vision to the front of the family. How what and how? "Said Vina.

Be communicated with children and give children the trust. Speak with the words and give positive motivation. When children speak, listen his words with the heart. Similarly, when children have problems, check with the current problems haunt the child. "That way, children will be fostered for the independent and have responsibility," said Vina.

There are a few tips that emotional intelligence presented Vina. Of which is, of the blame, it is better to encourage the children to give. Then, from the overlook, it is better to explain to the child what has been done.

From birth, the child is like a sheet of white paper is clean. Parents and the environment outside the home is the colors that will decorate the white paper. As much as possible, parents should maintain and educate children so that the color values, positive and help her in this life.

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Black Streak on Chinese Architecture

Chinese culture is a culture that never dropped out during the year 5000 compared to other cultural excellence in the world. From architecture to culinary, abandoned the ancestors of the nation until now.

However, in the middle culture fusion, the Chinese cultural seems being forgeting. When the noodles and bakpao still enjoy, as with other architectural properties. Though the full history, now many Chinese architectural heritage that is not maintained, even vanish earth swallowed.

Chandra Naya or first called Building Sin Ming Hui, for example. Now the building is located on Jalan Gajah Mada No. 188 is not like the original. Only the main building. That has been squeezed terraced building, squeezed by time and civilization of modern society.

Similarly, with the tomb Souw Beng Kong, where the last place captain is also the first Chinese real squeezed. Before restored, the existence of the graves, located in Taruna Gang, Prince Jayakarta Street squeezed this house look untidy and dirty. Even already about 80cm below the soil surface. As if the graves of mindless, but history says another.

So also with some Chinese heritage buildings that are located in Pasar Pagi, Mangga Dua, and Senen. There, many buildings being collapsed for the development of the toll road, shops, and shopping centers.

Destruction of Chinese architecture, especially in Jakarta, not apart from their own community (including those who are called "Chinese half-breed"). Try to think, what the shop owners, traders and owners of buildings in the area Glodok, Mangga Dua, Pasar Pagi and? Most of them are called with the Chinese hybrid people are descendants of Chinese in the past.

Because business opportunities and financial interests, they are not concerned with the historical factors. Moreover, the area has potential for a very large business in Jakarta. Glodok a course such as the rotation of money has billions of rupiah per day.

While Chinese people are very honored their ancestor. They have a tradition of molasses Beng others who do not teach each individual to honor ancestors and parents to visit their grave. The main idea, because we have them, therefore we must not forget their services.

Old buildings that look distinctly Chinese obsolete, but has historical value, many being collapsed. Replaced with new buildings, modern minimalist style that looks more in line with the interests of business. They compete in the scratch Rejeki place, which should be heritage.

Architecture properties Sumintardja Djauhari the Ark, a Chinese observer architecture, is a cultural form that is easily recognized and become the image and identity of a city or the environment. That is, the identity of the property into the surrounding community, even a city like Jakarta.

If more Chinese property in the area of Mangga Dua, Glodok, and New Market being collapsed, then lost the identity of the community. In fact, from the first until now, many Chinese people who inhabit the region.

Auto Amnesia
Not only people, but also the fact tesebut not apart from the influence of the government in power. Glodok, and Pasar Pagi Mangga Dua, not the new show yesterday afternoon. Remember, the new order, Chinese culture does not sebebas like this now. New government in the Gus Dur, Barongsai and Chinese New Year does not forbidden.

This means, in the new order, culture, heritage architecture including the Chinese, may have "cleaning". Can not be protected as opposed to the policy authorities. Anyone can not protect the heritage of their country if the government does not analogous.

Another case with right now. Chinese culture began kept as other Indonesian culture. A course such as Imlek or Cap Go Meh, this culture that even many being commercial. Various schools, community groups, and even shopping centers are routine celebration each year. So also with the Chinese language, many schools and institutions that provide courses specifically learn its language.

If the policy has changed, now factor into financial problems. Although many observers of the history and architecture pour their tought to find a way how to preserve the Chinese architecture, but the allocation of maintenance costs be calculated from the government is still minimal. While the buildings did not ask for a little maintenance fund.

Unfortunatelly, but it is reality. If the government does not support the first existence of Chinese culture, it is money that is a problem. The Government of Jakarta itself is still not whole-heartedly to protect ancient Chinese architecture, which is inherited from the Century 17 and 18 this. "Not that there is adequate protection," said Djauhari.

Among the many properties of historical Chinese architecture in Jakarta. If the people want, there are still some that can be saved in the Glodok. Everything depends on the community, which would be brought to the historical-cultural heritage? Protect it and let a Chinese expression of identity or community being banished and let us suffer amnesia car, forget oneself up our own history.

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